Babies and Advice
|Me and my nephew, Lincoln - circa Jan 2011|
Brandon and I have just reached our 6 month mark in our marriage! We're still newlyweds and still learning so much about each other. We're having fun spending time with family and friends. We're taking trips that are just the two of us. We're enjoying life together. Alone.
Though a little more each day, we're asked "so when are you two planning to have kids?" Obviously babies are the next step in life after marriage, but right now, we really do not feel ready. I've heard plenty of times from my Sister that you'll never be fully prepared for a baby. They just bring in so much change.
I know one day I do want kids, and I imagine that I would be a great mother to them. I imagine them snuggling in bed with me when they've had a bad dream. I imagine looking at them and seeing what a miracle God gave me. I imagine seeing Brandon in their faces. But, right now, and God knows my heart, I do not want kids. I hope this doesn't come off as rude or selfish because I know there are many woman out there that are dying to have a baby. And can't. I'm not saying I don't ever want kids because I do. Just not right now.
It's the little things that add up and financially I don't know how people do it. Between the sacrifice of taking off work and relying on one income, the doctor visits, the medical bills, the daycare bills, etc.
Seriously, how do you moms do it? How do you pay for everything? Diapers, wipes, baby furniture, gah, it's overwhelming thinking about it. And I thought a dog was a REAL responsibility.
Any moms or moms-to-be have any advice?
Teach me your ways oh wise ones.